This month is Bullying Awareness Month, and today is Unity Day. In observance of these two events, Donnell brings you the following post on bullying.
Recently, I listened to a public service announcement from a president of a teacher’s association talk about how bullying can/must be prevented in schools and that adults have the power to stop it. While on the surface, this sounds wonderful and part of a perfect world, I find the statement disingenuous. Why? Because, in my opinion, adults are the culprits behind, and, in fact, are the ones responsible for bullying.
Maybe you’ve seen the Vonage commercial about bundling (TV, phone, internet) where a Stepford-like couple approaches their new neighbors, and says, “But we all bundle.” I submit, in one form or another, “We all bully.”
The political ads, the downright dirty attacks on both sides of the political spectrum, have little to do with passion. This is all-out war to get their candidate elected. There’s money to be made in these attack ads, and the ugly truth is that conflict and gossip sell. Take a look at the reality shows. For some reason, many are drawn to watching fellow human beings experience pain and suffering. If they weren’t, the ratings wouldn’t be through the roof, and the shows would be cancelled.
If a child is bullied at home, chances are that child is going to bully at school. If a child is treated with kindness and respect, chances are he will carry on that learned behavior at school. There are leaders and followers in this world, and children who don't want to be bullied and haven't learned how to stand up for themselves--well, unfortunately, they get behind the bully. I speak of generalities, of course. There are psychological components that muddy my argument.
(Originally posted on Five Scribes blog, August 24, 2012.)
About the Author: Donnell Ann Bell is a two-time Golden Heart® finalist who previously worked for a weekly business newspaper and a parenting magazine. Her debut novel The Past Came Hunting became an Amazon bestseller, reaching as high as #6 on the paid overall list. Her second book, Deadly Recall, brought to you by Bell Bridge Books, reached #1 on Amazon. Learn more about Donnell atwww.donnellannbell.com.