By Aaron Michael Ritchey
Stop.
I really want you to think about the question I wanna ask
you. So. Just. Stop.
Focus on the screen and turn off that radio, click off that
second monitor, ignore the damn dog for a minute, let your children go
screaming off into the streets because I need your full attention.
Are you ready?
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This is the question that was asked at my critique group
tonight and no one answered it except for me. Do you know why? Because this
question is brutal.
Okay. Here is the
question.
What kind of validation are you looking for through your
writing?
I know. See why I
wanted you to cut loose those distractions? I’ll repeat the question for those with a blown mind.
What kind of validation are you looking for through your
writing?
My answer? None. You can’t validate me through my writing
because it can never, ever be enough.
Only if I had the fame and fortunes of a J.K. Rowling or a Stephanie
Meyer could I even begin to come close to the validation I want. I am bottomless when it comes to other
people’s attention and their validation. I can never be satisfied. It’s a
game I can’t win.
You say you like something I wrote, and I don’t believe you,
or the praise isn’t right, or it doesn’t focus on exactly what I want to
hear. My ranking in Amazon goes up, but
it never goes up far enough. I’m never
#1 across all of Amazon for weeks on end. It is never enough.
I’m not rich and famous.
I’m not an award-winning writer.
I’m not validated much, and when I am, it’s iffy. It doesn’t mean much.
Now, I say all that, but I have to be honest, when I got my
glorious Kirkus Review for Long Live the
Suicide King, I memorized it. When I
had someone legitimately fangirl out over me, yeah, I savored it. When I had my daughters love one of the books
I wrote for them and cry at the end, yeah, that was true validation. Yes, those things were nice.
But I’m learning not to look for validation because for me, I
can’t live off it. When validation
comes, however, I DO MY BEST TO CELEBRATE IT (all caps for you and for me), but
my appetite for validation is waning.
Instead?
I write because I’ll be dead soon. Soonish. Fifty years or ten minutes, we don’t know. I’ll be dead soon and this is exactly what I
want to be doing with my life right now. Not to get all Dr. Sigmund Freud on you, but this is my causa sui, my life’s purpose, to write
books and to get them published by any means necessary.
That is a grand game, a tough game, a vicious game, but it’s
a game I’m going to play as best I can, as creatively as I can, and yeah, my
chances of winning are slim.
But that is what makes it grand. That is what makes it heartbreaking and
wonderful and staggering because in this writing game, there are no rules.
Let me repeat that. There are no rules.
Wonderful, humanizing books right now are not selling while
hastily written erotica about dinosaurs are making millions.
No one knows anything. If they say they know, they are trying to sell you something. Buy it. Why not? Where else do you want
your money to go? Buy magic beans. You can always mix them later with some rice
for a complete protein.
For me, right now, validation isn’t the point of this. It’s to play the game, to write the books I
need to write, and to enjoy as much of it as I can.
And in reality, there is a lot to enjoy.
About the Author: Aaron Michael Ritchey is
the author of Long Live the Suicide King, a finalist in the Reader’s
Favorite contest. Kirkus Reviews calls the story “a compelling tale of teenage
depression handled with humor and sensitivity.” His debut novel, The Never
Prayer, was also a finalist in the Colorado Gold contest. His forthcoming
works include a new young adult novel from Staccato Publishing and a six book
sci-fi/western series from Kevin J. Anderson’s WordFire Press. In shorter
fiction, his G.I. Joe inspired novella was an Amazon bestseller in Kindle
Worlds and his story, “The Dirges of Percival Lewand” was nominated for a Hugo.
He lives in Colorado with his wife and two goddesses posing as his daughters.
For more about him, his books, and how to
overcome artistic angst, visit www.aaronmritchey.com. He’s on Facebook as Aaron Michael Ritchey and
he tweets - @aaronmritchey.